The number 1 lifehack for reaching your goals easier, faster and with more fun
I love personal development with all my heart, but it’s not your typical walk in the park.
It can be tough at times.
That’s because it’s essential to face insecurities and deal with failure.
You have to overcome obstacles if you want to grow as a person.
So do you want to know about a lifehack that I have applied that makes personal development much easier?
The number 1 lifehack that will enable you to reach your goals easier, faster and with more fun?
I call this lifehack “together development”.
It will act like fertilizer for the soil of your personal growth when consistently applied.
I’m excited to share this concept with you through a personal story.
Because at that point in my life, it was the one thing that changed it all.
Where does the magic happen?
I was sitting behind my computer trying to wrap my head around my new path.
I had been neglecting my dating life for a long time and it was a total mess which I had to fix.
On the internet I discovered a course about meeting and attracting women. The problem was that implementing the information wasn’t easy, because I had a lot to improve upon.
“I have to work harder!” I said to myself, while I imagined meeting a girl with who I could share amazing experiences.
The only way to meet her was to take action and to keep going where the magic happens. This meant going outside my comfort zone and cold approaching a lot of girls.
To be successful at this felt hard back then.
The problem was that I was taking a lot of action, while the results were nowhere near what I wanted. I noticed this pattern in other areas like business, music, health/fitness and productivity.
I was doing a lot, but getting average results.
This got me thinking:
I’m a smart guy, pretty disciplined and I’m doing a lot of work. That should equal more results in the long term right?
But why is it taking such a long time and why am I hitting a lot of plateaus? I must be doing something wrong, but what?
The answer came a few weeks later on a clear summer night while I was looking at the stars through my window.
I realized what I was doing wrong and why I wasn’t getting what I wanted.
My epiphany was as clear as the night sky that day:
I try to reach goals without the help of other people, because I think I can achieve what I want by myself. To be more successful I have to combine powers with others.
The personal in my personal development was holding me back big time. That’s what I had to change.
I had to meet other guys to help each other with meeting women, because then I could receive feedback. It would allow me to learn from others.
But it went further than just improving my dating life. I wanted to share knowledge and expertise on other areas like health, personal effectiveness and business.
So what did I do? I decided to expand my social circle with people who were open to this idea, which to this day, is one of the best decisions of my life.
While I was expanding my social circle, I came across an interesting online community.
It was a community of men who helped each other improve with women.
I ended up becoming friends with some of the guys who were part of the community. It was great because I finally knew people who were as motivated to improve as myself.
Everything got even better when I said to one of my new friends:
“We should practice more together development. We could do this by starting a ‘mastermind group’, a group of people that help each other grow and reach goals.”
We got some other people involved, started the mastermind group and never looked back.
The definition of a mastermind group is: “the coordination of knowledge and effort of two or more people, who work toward a definite purpose, in the spirit of harmony”.
To do this you hold a periodic meeting where you discuss challenges and new insights. This is called the mastermind meeting.
With a mastermind group, you can focus on goals like:
- Starting an online business
- Improving your dating life
- Becoming more productive
- Improving health/fitness
- General personal development
At first our focus was improving with women, but we changed this after a while. It became much more about general personal development and sharing life experiences.
What was the impact of the mastermind group on our lives? It was like adding fertilizer to the soil of our personal growth.
It’s powerful to share life challenges, success moments and knowledge on a monthly basis. If you do this together with the right people, you can help each other in so many ways.
We were all able to reach our goals faster, easier and with more fun. It was great!
Why should you start a mastermind group?
If you take the time to start a mastermind group, it will have a big positive impact on your life. The main benefits are:
- Regularly receive positive feedback from people just as motivated as you
- Share all your life experiences in a non-judgemental environment
- Use the synergy of the group to solve life challenges more easily
- Reach goals together with others instead of figuring it out all alone
- You do all this every single time you meet with your mastermind group
Needless to say, but this kind of social environment will have a profound impact on your life. It will accelerate your learning and personal growth.
Trying to do it all by yourself is a lonely path and takes a long time, so doing it together is the smart way to go. It’s also more fun.
It’s also a fact that behaviors, emotions and beliefs of people around us are contagious—they automatically influence us over time. It’s important that you make this influence positive.
Try hanging out with someone who is often in a negative state and who always moans about life for a few weeks. You’ll start to become more like that person over time.
By being in a mastermind group you surround yourself with good social influences that want to reach the same goals as you. Together you influence each other’s behavior, emotions and beliefs in a positive way.
A mastermind group is the number 1 lifehack for success, but it isn’t a quick fix. That’s because the real benefits show themselves over time.
There are also pitfalls when starting out which can cause your mastermind group to fail. It can also take time and be hard to find the right members.
To help you with this, we have written a free ebook: “The Mastermind Handbook: how to accelerate your personal growth by starting a mastermind group”.
The ebook goes deeper into:
- The mastermind group concept and the 7 most important benefits
- 6 proven steps that you can follow to set up your own mastermind group
- A meeting preparation form that leads to results every meeting
- Our personal experiences of being part of a mastermind group
You can download The Mastermind Handbook at the bottom of this article. It will definitely help you if you want to start a mastermind group yourself.
So what do you think of the mastermind group concept? Are you also in a mastermind group? Or would you want to start one after reading this article?
I would love to hear from you in the comments down below and I will respond to them personally.
Thomas is the co-founder of DateGrowth and he creates content about dating, health and personal effectiveness. In his content he likes to combine psychology and spirituality. He is a digital nomad, morning meditator, green tea addict and an internet entrepreneur. His main goal is to provide you with personal development advice that actually works.
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